5 Starting Points to Discussing Home Care When You're Supporting Mom

5 Starting Points to Discussing Home Care When You're Supporting Mom

Caregivers in Salt Lake City UT

You want to sit down and talk about home care with your mother. She may be in her 70s or 80s and you’ve been helping her as best you can. However, your time is limited and you’ve noticed just how much stress you’re under as a family caregiver.

Discussing the topic of home care, though, is not always easy. You may anticipate your mother being forcefully against the idea. You might worry she’s going to get belligerent, accuse you of not caring about her, and state you simply want to pass her off and put her in a nursing home.

You know none of that’s true, but you also realize how much this caregiver stress is affecting you directly. Here are five starting points you might consider when needing to discuss home care with your elderly mother.

Starting Point #1: What does she want to do?

Everyone has activities or areas of interest they wish to pursue. As people get older, they may have to give up some of those activities. What is it she still wants to do?

You can bring up the topic in conversations, even casual conversations. You can jot down these ideas, keep them in mind, and when you start talking about home care, you can advise her she may be able to pursue some, if not all, of those activities.

Starting Point #2: You don’t have much time.

Your time is limited. Between your job and other responsibilities, you just don’t have any more time to devote to her. However, she still needs more and more assistance. If you can help her see things from your perspective, she might be more willing to listen about home care options.

Starting Point #3: You’re arguing.

Talk about how this is impacting your relationship with her. You don’t want it to be a contentious point between the two of you.

However, your arguing a lot and that’s not typical of you. The stress is starting to impact this and other relationships in your life.

Starting Point #4: Saving money.

It might seem that hiring a home care aide is going to cost money, but between your time, the time you’ve taken off from work, the wear-and-tear in your vehicle, the cost of gas, and much more, it could be costing you a fortune to be her primary caregiver.

Starting Point #5: Long-term care possibilities.

There are other senior care options, including nursing homes and assisted living. More seniors prefer to remain at home, and if your mother seems as though she’ll need long-term care, it’s just too much for you.
While she may only be thinking short-term at the moment, get her to think more long-term. That might change her perspective tremendously.

If you or an aging loved one are considering caregivers in Salt Lake City, UT, contact the caring staff at Interim Healthcare. Call today 801-401-3515.

Author: Michael and Marlena Hawkins, Owners, Interim HealthCare, Salt Lake City, UT 

Interim HealthCare of Salt Lake City has been in business since February 2014, providing in-home personal care and support services that help our elderly and/or disabled neighbors live enriched, safe and independent lives. Our goal is to provide customized care and support services that make it possible for our clients to remain in the comfort of their own homes rather than relocate to an assisted living facility.  Interim HealthCare is family owned by Michael and Marlana Hawkins, and is a Veteran Owned Small Business.

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